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Comment on Blog post for FSID on my marathon journey! by Louise

Louise — Thu, 01 Dec 2011 22:05:25 +0000

Sue,

Sounds great, we can keep up with each other on Runkeeper and Facebook. I look forward to reading your blog

Louise
xxxx

Comment on Blog post for FSID on my marathon journey! by sue shannon-jones

sue shannon-jones — Thu, 01 Dec 2011 19:13:10 +0000

Hya Louise.

Can I be your virtual training partner for this. Like you, I struggled at VLM in 2010, like you, I lost my mojo for a while, but it’s back now with a vengeance!!!

I’ll update my blog soon and let you have the link.

All the best

Sue

Comment on Happiness Machine by Louise

Louise — Mon, 31 Oct 2011 13:45:04 +0000

Thank you Sarah xx

Comment on Happiness Machine by Sarah

Sarah — Mon, 31 Oct 2011 13:12:16 +0000

I can’t imagine how you got through it, but I know I have experienced unhappiness and agree this makes me appreciate the good times and in a strange kind of way this generates a more intense happiness!

Comment on Happiness Machine by Louise

Louise — Mon, 10 Oct 2011 14:27:48 +0000

Thank you xx

Comment on Happiness Machine by Geves

Geves — Mon, 10 Oct 2011 14:06:27 +0000

This is so true, and hard to admit to, especially to people who haven’t lost a child. How can you possibly be happy, or feel truly happy afterwards? I treasure moments now like I never did before we lost Juliette. I’m changed too, but I know the true worth of people and what love means, in a way that passed me by before. Thank you for pointing me to this wonderful, honest post.

Comment on My dead brother! by Geves

Geves — Mon, 10 Oct 2011 11:24:21 +0000

I think it’s lovely that Alex includes Ellis in a “normal” way, but this is so hard, isn’t it? I agree with Jane, that honesty is best. My youngest was born a year after her sister died, too. She’s 8 now and too young to ask the question, but I hope I’ll have figured out how to answer when the time comes. I met an adult “survivor” a few years ago when I was worrying about this. She said she knew she wasn’t planned until after her brother had died, but that it didn’t affect her negatively. We probably worry too much. Children can’t imagine the world without them in it. They know they are loved for themselves and I think that egocentricity carries them through until as adults they understand as adults and parents, what we have gone through.

Comment on My dead brother! by Louise

Louise — Wed, 28 Sep 2011 11:21:50 +0000

thank you all for the lovely comments xx

Comment on My dead brother! by Cwningen

Cwningen — Wed, 28 Sep 2011 10:06:09 +0000

You would have still had Alex, just maybe not at the same time. I believe that. Loss and change are difficult things for children to understand. I trust your ability to handle it. You know the circumstances, and you know your son. I’m here if you need to talk.

Comment on My dead brother! by Jane Webster

Jane Webster — Wed, 28 Sep 2011 07:17:10 +0000

Helen often says the same thing of David who died a year before she was born. It is often when she is a bit lonely, the problem we have is that when she talks about him to other people they don’t believe her. We even had that with a teacher at her junior school. I think its important to be honest and I tell Helen that if David had survived we probably wouldn’t have had her given my age. But I also tell her how lucky we are to have her and how special she and Alex are to our family and how much we love both of them. Thye will probably always miss what they’ve never known and wonder how different it would have been but we’re all so lucky to have them at all. I think its made our family stronger because if you have to deal with the loss of a child you know you can deal with anything! x